This is all the content I put on my personal blog around the birth of our first child. None of the links are active now, and some of the opinions stated 20 years ago have changed as well.
Name: Eddy Glen Phillip Becker
Birthday: 10 Nov 02 (right on time!)
Weight: 7 lb 3.5 oz
Length: 21.25 inches
Posts are listed in reverse order (newest first). To get the story in chronological order starting in September, jump to the bottom by clicking here
Well, its been a really long time. I used to have extra time to spend, but it seems to have all evaported once Eddy started walking.
So, as of today Eddy can:
Walk very fast
Eat with a fork
Point out most body parts (head, hair, eyes, nose, teeth, tounge, ears, neck, chin, cheek, shoulders, fingers, tummy, knees, toes)
Likes to go sledding in the snow
Makes animal sounds (bear, lion, elephant, cat, dog, crow, frog, duck, goldfish, cow, rooster, chicken, sheep, horse, monkey, owl…)
Makes his desires clear (pick me up, put me down -wee wee; sing to me; I’m hungry – num num;
Asks “what is that” and “what is this?”
Asks you to “do that”
Loves to read
The most amazing part is what he picks up from observation. Yesterday he picked up Allison’s contact lens case, stuck his finger in the case and then in his eye. This is not something we taught him. Most of the animals sounds and several body parts he got right the first time we asked because he had figured them out on his own already.
He is just getting over his second real cold of his life. Both times probably brought on by licking the handles of a shopping cart. Serves him right.
“No” is, of course, his favorite word. He like to say “NO” and point at what he’s not supposed to mess with… right before he tries it anyway. Other words include, Ma, Daddin, nose, toes, juice, whassat? whassis? apple, wow, uh-oh, shoes, hi, hey, and of course the animal noises.
Once this boy can replicate English, I don’t think he’ll ever stop.
When he starts croaking like a frog, or bubbling like a brook he probably wants to watch “Foolish Frog” – and old Chuck Seegar video about a farmer, his banjo, and a frog that jumps back and forth from bank to bank just because he’s nothing better for to do.
And he whistles about as well as Allison.
He likes to dance, and plays the harmonica, and has started drawing scribbles on paper. He knows pens and pencils and crayons and markers are for paper, but still hits the walls as well.
He spends an hour or two most weekdays at the Childwatch in the YMCA. Allison drops him off and I pick him up when I get off lifegurading at noon. (My whole life I’ve avoided the coffee addiction that seems to affect the men in my family, but 5:15 am – noon 5 days a week makes coffee a whole lot more appealing.) Eddy does fine playing with and around the other kids. He doesn’t like to be left, but you just distract him with something and then slip out. He’s fine until he sees one of us again later and is so dramatic with the crying and suffering. I don’t buy it though.
His birthday was a lot of fun. Tons of friends and family and presents and fresh cake and local ice cream… fun fun. There are a couple other boys about his age (all within a month) and they got together for a little party as well. They are so cute together.
And now that the temperature remains in the double digits and is actually up in the 40s and 50s during the day, Eddy is running around outside and leading us for walks around the sidewalk. And pointing out the birds, and the moon, and feeling trees, and splashing in puddles… at least he’s not a climber.
He’s really a great kid, and we’ve been very fortunate.
Well, I have a new photoalbum up and running. Click on the nekkid baby or the “photos” link to see it. Use the “home” link to get back to this page.
Still working kinks out. Like, I can’t add comments very easily.
“Allison” now links to a page she made for a class. It’s all about first year teachers and what to expect.
Ok, so it’s been a while. Instead of trying to tell you what happened when, I’m just going to fill you in on Eddy’s life as of now.
He’s mobile. Belly crawling quickly and pulling himself to standing. He can even walk a little holding on to things (like the crib railing, the couch, or his bouncer.) He has 8 teeth and is teething again. His coordination is good enough that he can sit on his hands and knees, reach out and grab something in one hand while balancing in the other, and look at it before it goes in his mouth. He likes to feed himself bread pieces between bites of spoon-food. Bananas are cool too – but they get messy!
After our trip to Oak Point on the St. Lawrence river, Eddy has discovered splashing and swimming. We take him out into the little kiddie pool every couple days (usually after the afternoon meal – to clean him up!) Barrel rolling is a favorite pastime now… especially right before bath time or while I’m changing his diaper. Speaking of diaper time, Eddy has ….. discovered himself shall we say. Diaper changes are a whole new thing to look forward to!
At night, Eddy will sleep about 9 hours. But no matter what time we put him down (we’ve experimented here) he still wakes up around 5:30. Sometimes earlier, sometimes a little later, but always early. If he goes to bed real early (like 6:30pm) he and Allison might be up from 2am until 4 or so. Then he’ll sleep till 6:30.
Everything goes in his mouth. Everything gets played with. And as of this last week, everything becomes a ladder (especially daddys).. He even made it up the first two stairs (with Allison watching.)
Eddy is growing faster than the pot garden I have out back. Potted garden. Plants in containers. LEGAL plants in containers! Like dill, mint, chamomile, stevia, mugwort, geranium, squash, and cilantro. (My dill plant stands almost to my shoulders, thank you very much!) And Eddy is growing faster than all of them. He does something new and exciting every couple days (he just started to actually crawl a little instead of belly crawl) and we love every minute of it. Except between the hours of 2am and 6am. Those are mommybaby hours that I wouldn’t dream of interrupting!
I’m going to add a couple pictures from the last three months or so. I may find a new way to post these pictures, and you’ll know when/if it happens.
Here’s a couple of messages Allison left on my phone while I was at work.
He doen’t need me!
So, he’s got his first tooth coming in now. It’s not all the way in, but there is a definite hole in his gum with a SHARP tooth under it. He loves to chomp on things like fingers and noses and rags, but doesn’t like frozen chew toys. hmm.
And … he’s started on solid food. We decided to try some baby food when he started grabbing the spoon out of our mouths at dinner, and we had to keep our plates out of his reach. He had all the mouthing signs for being ready for a spoon (toung clicking, lip smacking etc) and he took to it right away. He loves vanilla yogurt and sweet potatoes. Not at the same time, but each on its own. Carrots go down ok, but apple anything is like candy to him. And it helps him poop, which is always a good thing. We have been using organic baby food in jars, ’cause we can’t seem to get the consistency right on our homemade baby food. Still trying though.
Have we mentioned how strong this child is? He can stand up and support his weight if we keep him balanced. He can flip over from his belly to his back with no problem, and seems to like to sleep on his side sometimes. And when he’s not ready to lay down, he wiggles a lot. Once he stretches out, that’s it. Might as well stand up and carry him around.
Sleeping is getting better. He usually goes down about 7, and wakes up between 2-4 for a feeding. Down again until 5:30-6:30 and then up until an occassional mid-morning nap. Sometimes napping during the day, usually at least once. One time he slept for 10 hours straight, and then started his day at 5am.
Smacking on things to see what type of noise they make is a favorite game. He loves keyboards, but a bright red plastic bag does just as well. So do beds, and walls, and pillows, and his own self.
You should see the wiggle fits on this kid! All you can do is just lay him on his back and laugh with him while he flops and flaps and flips and squirms and wiggles. Especially the nekkid wiggles right before bath time. Allison thinks he wiggles in antici……….pation of things like baths and diaper changes. I think he just likes to wiggle.
So, new pictures are up in Eddy and Family sections. enjoy
Oops. It’s been a while since I’ve posted anything. Sorry.
Lets see… My parents came to visit at the end of January. That went well, even though they didn’t clean and make us dinner like some relatives did. (Well, they did buy dinner so that’s ok.)
Took 3 month birthday pictures and never posted them (until just now). And put up 4 month pictures as well.
He is getting so strong. He has rolled over from his belly to his back a couple times. If his arm is by his side and he lifts a leg up really high, he kinda falls over onto his back – it’s really cute! He has also started holding weight on his arms when he’s on his belly. Not a lot, and not for long, but he’s getting there. Sometimes he’ll inchworm across the bed when he’s playing with Allison. I’ve never seen it, but he’s on his belly and picks his butt up and then kinda lunges forward a little at a time. He desperately wants to be mobile!
He has also started crying. When he’s sleepy and knows he’s sleepy he’ll scream for 10 minutes or so before passing out. It’s really nerve wracking, especially when it happens between 5:00am and 6:30am. Those bouts tend to go on for 1/2 hour or so. Allison is really good with him in the mornings. Or so I assume because I usually cover my head with a blanket and pillow and pretend to be asleep.
We think he’s starting the teething process. He drools constantly, and chomps on anything he can get into his mouth. It’s kinda frustrating for him ’cause the teething toys are too big for him, and the little plastic chain links he likes to chew on only get 2 pieces of his gums at a time (they’re loops ya know?) This morning he just kept screaming until I stuck my finger in his mouth and rubbed his lower gums for a while. Teeth. yay.
He’s still such a joy and loves to play and get his “face time.” He likes to superman and play with the baby in the mirror. He’s started recognizing the bottle from a distance and even has favorite toys.
We have this crikly little “Cow Book” with all sorts of great colors and textures. Allison strung it on his mobile for color, and I was opening the pages while he was looking at it in the crib. He would start to fuss and cry after a while, so I turned the page, and he would smile and laugh. He did that for the whole book, forwards and backwards. I wasn’t reading, just letting him look at the pages until he was done. I don’t think that’s normal. Our baby might be too smart for us here shortly.
So, my cousins didn’t make it for christmas, but Allison’s aunt did. She drove about 14 hours or more and sent 3 with us. She really wanted to see the baby.
He’s getting really cute. He talks a lot (well, baby talk) and still cries very little. We are trying to get into a night time routine so he knows when it’s bed time – bath, book, feed, sleep. It worked once.
I am still working on editing video, and I may put a couple short clips online. We’ll see.
If anyone is interested in high res pictures, let me know. I can put a whole mess of them on a CD and send them to you. Ophoto.com does a really excellent job of printing digital pics and mailing them to you.
Happy Holidays everyone! This will be our first year to host family. Well, some family is vising us for a few hours if that counts. My cousins in CT are driving through the probable snow to arrive around 3am tomorrow. We will share some bottles of fruit wine I got (fruitwine.com – good stuff), maybe sleep, then start breakfast. Allison’s aunt from MI will be arriving a few hours earlier, but she opted to go straight to the motel and join us for breakfast.
I am “working” today and tomorrow. If you call snowboarding and teaching others how really working. well, ok at times it is challenging, but come on, I’m snowboading. I will take my cousins to the local ski bump mountain and throw them in with any lessons I get. It’ll be fun.
Eddy is getting books for most of his presents. It’s hard to wait ’cause I want to read them to him. Sammy (the dog) is getting a bath. Lucky her.
It’s probably going to snow.
Well wishes to everyone. Stay safe.
Been a while since an update. I guess this is a good time. He’s sleeping in a front pack right now while I type. Allison went to get a haircut – she has mixed feelings about getting out of the house. On one hand, she doen’t want to leave the baby. On the other, she has been cooped up for a month now so…
Since Allison was Group B Strep + we went to see the doctor at week one, just to check. He was fine. Week 2 was the normal visit, and he was a little low on weight. Week 3 was to recheck his weight. Gained a pound in a week. Week 4 will be his normal visit. Lot’s a doctors visits. We will probably go much less frequently after this next on.
Eddy seems to have inherited my metabolism, which means he eats all the time. As hard as Allison is trying, she can’t keep up with milk production. She might be stressed or dehyhdrated, but we have had to start feeding from a bottle after every other nursing session or so. Otherwise he would nurse for an hour 1/2 or so, and still make starving faces. Either way, it breaks our hearts. Feed him junk food, but food… or let him nurse at nothing and mom and baby just get frustrated.
All the wonderful things we had planned for this baby keep getting interrupted by life’s other plans. At least he’s as healthy as we can make him. He still only cries if there is something wrong (diaper, food, attetion) and has a more normal number of alert waking periods (now that he’s getting more to eat)
I am working on putting together some video of Eddy. I’ll make it available online in short clips, and I’ll try to get a video tape made by the holidays. Drop me an email if you’d like a copy.
He sleeps in bed with us a little more than half the time. He won’t stay long in the crib. Apparantly he likes sleeping on us as well. We went to sleep last night with him on my chest, until one of us rolled a little and he ended up between us again. We are very aware of him in bed, and make sure he has blankets and is not getting smothered. He really does sleep better next to us.
Allison calls him a little “cuddle bug.” We also call him: little guy, big guy, little man, big man, mr. man, mr. manly, eddy, mr. ed, eddy munster and the baby.
I would post more pictures, but until he can hold his head up, they all look like one of us holding him on our chest, or sleeping next to him. If I can find the pictures of Allison’s other baby shower, I’ll scan those in as well.
So… things are going well. This is the slow season for me at work, so I am home most of the time. Neither one of us sleeps much, but her less than me. With a light on in the bedroom so we can check on him more easily, and with the irregular sleep patterns, life is like one neverending twilight. It gets hard to tell what day it is.
Cloth diapering is going well. We are getting a few more diapers his size (we thought the others would fit him but… he’ll grow) and a couple more newborn diaper covers. With the covers, you don’t need pins or anything, just fold, wrap, and velcro – good to go. The hourglass shaped diapers that are too big won’t even require folding, just wrap and cover. I did order a few of the newborn size that shoud be here soon.
What an experience! Everyone came home from the hospital yesterday and is doing just fine. Allison is a little short on sleep though. The nusrsery nurses at the hospital kept coming in to check to take the baby’s temp and make sure he was eating. The other nurses kept coming in to check Allison and make sure she was OK. Then the student nurses kept coming in because Allison is just too nice a person and let them check her again. (She figures that since her job is basically supervising student teacher / mentor teacher pairs, that she owed it to the Universe)
Back at home and catching up on some sleep. I’m fine, but Allison is the one who has gets to nurse and hold him all the time. First night, I check the baby if he cries. Check diaper, burp, hold. Then if he’s still upset pass him over to Allison to feed.
He’s pretty good about not crying unless something is actually wrong. If it’s not one of those first things, then he just wants to be held. Not too bad, all in all – so far.
He can already pick up his head and toss it, but has very little control. Well, he can pick up his head and drop it again really. Very irregular sleep/feed pattern though. Well, it’s regular for him, I guess. Nurse/nap for 30 min to an hour. Nap. Nurse. Awake. Through some pooping in there randomly and realize that any session could last 15 min or an hour and a half. We’ll all figure out a schedule here soon.
Linda (Allion’s mom) is a big help. She helps watch the baby or Allison so I can get other things done, or she does things around the house so I can spend time with them. Never thought I’d actually say this, but it’s good to have her around 🙂
Sammy (the dog) adapted well to the baby. Some quizzical looks early on at the loud thing, then a few sniffs when we set him on the floor in a rocker, and that’s about it. The cat could care less.
I have off work a few days, and should get plenty of time at home ’cause this is the slow season at work. Not many people feel like taking a boat ride on an underground river through a cave in the middle of Pennsylvania in the winter for some reason. I have project to work on at home, so I’ll keep busy (for sure.)
I’ve been taking pictures on digital, 35mm, and video. Once I figure out how to get video to the computer, I’ll have those available too. Probably I’ll just burn a bunch of CD’s and mail them later. We’ll get some real pictures made too, don’t worry.
Thanks for all the messages and kind thoughts people have been sending. I think I said that last time, so thanks again then.
Eddy was born at 0508 this morning! Mother and Baby are fine, but sleepy.
No baby yet. After about 64 hours of labor and pre-labor (strong contractions – sometimes very strong and up to 10 min long) Allison opted for medication to increase contractions and to numb the sensations so she could sleep. All the nurses commented on her beautiful breathing technique and how relaxed she looked during contractions. She / we did everything the best we could, but running 3 days on under 7 hours sleep (not more that 2 hours at a time) is hard on anyone – especially if your insides are squezzing themselves together every few minutes.
We tried everything we could to make this childbirth as Natural as possible – we used relaxation and guided imagery, different positions, several tricks we learned in our childbirth class. They all helped deal with the contractions and labor, but she just wasn’t progressing. We knew not to be in a hurry, but at the rate of .8 cm a day, this baby was coming on Thanksgiving and we wouldn’t have slept until he did! She did try some minor pain relievers this morning to help her sleep. We were told that 80% of the time, patients would wake up after 2-4 hours rest in strong active labor. She woke up after 1-2 hours rest with contractions back to Thursday morning status. Lying in bed just isn’t conductive to effective contractions. We knew that, but were/are exhausted.
At 4:30 the broke her water to try and help things along. Very little water actually came out, but the midwife wasn’t especially worried. By 7, Allison had decided that in order to preserve a vaginal delivery, some measures would have to be taken. She got some contration medicine at 7, and an epidual by 10 (yes, 65 hours after contractions began). Allison said “after 3 days, I feel like I’ve experienced Natural childbirth.”
On one hand, I’m upset with myself for not coaching/prepping better. I actually sat in a dark corner and cried for a good while after she made the decision. Please remember the amount of sleep I’ve gotten – usually if I’m up that long there’s much alcohol and some old friends involved. On the other hand, she seems so much more at peace after the drugs took effect. She was talking and joking again, and finally able to sleep. She’s sleeping now while her mom watches her.
I figure if she can have an IV for hydration, antibiotics, contration drugs and pain relievers, I’m allowed to have a beer. So, I’m going to finish this beer, finish this update, and sleep for about 3 hours. Then I’m going back to sit in the hospital and make sure my son has the best birthday ever.
this is probably it. back to back contractions. going back to the hospital.
Her contractions slowed down while she was sitting in the chair, but picked up again when we walked the dog. Standing and walking seems to let gravity aid the whole babydroppingdown thing.
She is starting to look like she’s concentrating hard on her work. That’s one of the distinct signs of a progressing labor. We may go back in pretty soon. No water breakage yet, but it’s coming – I guess.
We went to the hospital around 10 or 11 this morning. Allison was between 1-2 cm dialated, progressing slowly, but definitely labor. We got something to eat, some ice cream from the campus creamery, rented some movies, and came home around 3pm. She promptly fell asleep. I was working on fielding phone calls, finishing up a mint jelly project I started 3 days ago, and cleaning a place for the motherinlaw to stay if she ever comes down. Allison’s contractions have gotten stronger again. No obvious transition signs, and she’s still handling them well. We expect to go back in the middle of the night.
Talked to folks some last night. My dad seems to think he’ll be born at 2:36 am (Eastern). Allison’s asleep right now, so that might be difficult.
She’s having contractions. They may or may not be real, but they’re harder then they’ve been. We started timing them, just in case.
It’s been like christmas around here! Boxes from everyone! Thanks all for the great baby stuff. It was sure nice to see pictures of Caitlyn, Susie’s baby. Oh, and everyone else, too. Mom and Joey and Di and Grammy and Susie and Melinda got together and threw us a reverse baby shower. They took pictures of them wrapping the presents and mailed them to us. We now have tons of clothes (mom sent us Glenn’s and my old baby clothes earlier) blakets, crib sheets, and all the other stuff these baby’s are supposed to need.
Allison is yelling at the cat for getting in the hospital bag. We’re finishing up packing right now, and he likes to get in things. You know, cats like to “help” by being right in the middle of whatever you’re doing. Now he’s digging in an empty box, trying to get in.
Allison wants to wait another 1 1/2 hours to call the midwife, so that would be 14 hours after these contractions started (around 5:30 this morning)
It could be real soon.
I will have pictures up (of the reverse baby shower) as soon as I can figure out how to make my new computer like my camera disk drive. Last time I tried to install the drive, I had to reformat the drive and start from scratch. So, the computer doesn’t like my camera, in other words.
It’s getting close!
We just bought a mess of cloth diapers and covers. The system we’re going to try uses hourglass shaped cloth diapers that fold up around the baby, and then put a waterproof cover over that. No pins, no mess (hopefully) and the diapers can be used inside the All-in-one diapers that we got as well. The AIO diapers are really like disposables (elastic leg openings, waterproof shell, velcro closure) they’re just made of cloth so they can be reused. We think the best ones are the Bumkins, but they cost $11.50 each so we only got a few of those. We have a handful of different types of diapers and covers to see what works best. Allison didn’t like my idea of just holding him over the porch railing after he eats, and then wiping him up. Can’t understand why.
The baby has dropped into Allison’s pelvis. She can eat and breathe more now, but walking is more difficult. Our last Bradley class is the first week of November. We have already schelduled a pre-makeup day in case we can’t make it.
I’m a little behind on posting here. Sorry.
Allison’s co-workers through her a suprise baby shower the other day (the 4th). She had no idea it was coming, and neither did I. I’ll get pictures posted as soon as I find the album they gave her. We got some more clothes, a “Snuggli” front baby carrier, and they had a cake for her. When she walked into the room, they had an overhead projecter with the message “Can’t wait to meet you, Mom. Love Eddy” up on the wall. Very sweet.
The baby (or really Allison) is getting huge. No one thinks he’ll hold out till the due date. Well, Allison does, but no one else. I think he’ll be here before Halloween, but I’m probably wrong.
Lot’s to think about, for sure.
So, I’m catching some flack about deciding not to vaccinate. When it’s your kid, you can make an informed decision on your own. Here are some places to look for more information:
- Vaccianation Statistics
- Dispelling Vaccination Myths
- Informed Choice
Dad just told me that I only received 1 (one) of the recommended childhood vaccines early on. I’m fine, thanks.
I think Eddy got the hiccups today. Rhythmic pulses, not really kicks. That must suck… you can’t breathe and you’re already hiccuping. I hate the hiccups. I know a guy who went to the hospital because he couldn’t stop hiccuping and couldn’t get oxygen into his body. Although baby hiccups aren’t supposed to be so bad (they say).
More about the Bradley method of childbirth. The official name is “Academy of Husband Coached Childbirth.” Allison is supposed to practice her hip stretches (sitting poses) and Kegel exercises (strengthening of the “pelvic floor”) and perineal stretches. That last part is to assist in the actual passage of the child and to prevent vaginal tearing during birth. Yes, there are stretches for that part too.
Allison told me that Eddy was going nuts today. She had to sit and read and type and attend a 3 hour lecture today, and Eddy likes to keep moving. So… if Allison’s not, he is. Even the other people in her class could watch him dance!
Allison probably won’t have a baby shower, since her/our friends/family live all over the country. We have registered for a few things at two places online:
- EcoBaby.com for diapers and such (EcoBaby home)
- BabyCenter.com for hardware (car seat, co-sleeper etc)
We’re not sure what all we’re gonna need. Allison says she’s going to put out a call for old baby clothes to family. Consider this it, if you’re here. If you think of something else we might need, please let me know.
If you were planning on attending a baby shower, this page and those links may be you next best option. Sorry, no silly dress-up games or whatever goes on at a baby shower.
We just started our fist child birth class. We are studying the Bradley method. It’s a natural method that focuses on the mother and her coach (me) relaxing and breathing (rather than panting and screaming and doping and cutting)
We will not be having Eddy vaccinated. Especially not at the delivery. Maybe one or two vaccines in 6 months or a year, but probably not. I’ll post some links so you can do your own research. Our opinion is that:
- vaccines dont work
- vaccines are dangerous
- the child’s health will be better if he develops his body’s immune response naturally.
We have also decided not to circumcise. There is no need for it. period.
more updates later